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#755: Hugh Jackman and Esther Perel

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Podcast by Tim Ferriss: Bestselling Author, Human Guinea Pig
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This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #444 “Hugh Jackman on Best Decisions, Daily Routines, The 85% Rule, Favorite Exercises, Mind Training, and Much More” and #241 The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (with Esther Perel).”

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Timestamps:

[05:46] Notes about this supercombo format.

[06:49] Enter Hugh Jackman.

[07:22] What books has Hugh gifted most?

[10:35] Hugh’s meditation practices.

[14:07] Summoning and maintaining the emotional and physical energy necessary for performing.

[19:59] What lessons did Hugh’s father teach him about being an example to others?

[25:32] The contract Hugh made with himself at the end of drama school.

[29:13] Best decisions Hugh made in the first years of being an aspiring/working actor.

[34:23] How has Hugh learned to trust his intuition?

[37:07] The design of the day and the efficacy of manifestation.

[39:38] The most efficient exercises Hugh knows.

[40:53] The importance of incorporating relaxation into physical activity (the 85% rule).

[44:17] Enter Esther Perel.

[44:41] Esther’s background.

[46:11] Growing up among Holocaust survivors in Antwerp.

[53:45] Her parents’ survival: chance vs. choice.

[1:02:27] Trust or vulnerability: which comes first?

[1:04:24] Impermanence as motivation for living fully.

[1:06:24] Esther on being counterphobic.

[1:09:35] Studying in Jerusalem.

[1:14:02] Seeking and approaching mentors.

[1:22:39] Eroticism as an antidote to death.

[1:26:04] Options for couples with sexual listlessness.

[1:33:04] Too much honesty in relationships? American vs. European views.

[1:39:07] Complete sharing vs. caring in relationships.

[1:40:16] Guiding patients through infidelity disclosure.

[1:45:29] Overcoming fear of abandonment in non-exclusive relationships.

[1:52:23] Quarterly relationship report cards.

[1:53:54] “Don’t ask, don’t tell” in polyamorous relationships.

[1:55:46] Innovation and flexibility over rigid ideology in relationships.

[1:58:43] Relationships as power dynamics.

[2:02:20] The research process for Esther’s book on adultery.

[2:08:36] Arguments for marriage today.

[2:13:47] Divorce rates in second marriages.

[2:15:13] Marriage’s effect on relationship behavior.

[2:17:54] Human questions explored through infidelity in Esther’s book.

[2:21:48] Books Esther frequently gifts and rereads.

[2:22:42] Esther’s billboard.

[2:23:15] Parting thoughts.

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Past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry SeinfeldHugh JackmanDr. Jane GoodallLeBron JamesKevin HartDoris Kearns GoodwinJamie FoxxMatthew McConaugheyEsther PerelElizabeth GilbertTerry CrewsSiaYuval Noah HarariMalcolm GladwellMadeleine AlbrightCheryl StrayedJim CollinsMary Karr, Maria PopovaSam HarrisMichael PhelpsBob IgerEdward NortonArnold SchwarzeneggerNeil StraussKen BurnsMaria SharapovaMarc AndreessenNeil GaimanNeil de Grasse TysonJocko WillinkDaniel EkKelly SlaterDr. Peter AttiaSeth GodinHoward MarksDr. Brené BrownEric SchmidtMichael LewisJoe GebbiaMichael PollanDr. Jordan PetersonVince VaughnBrian KoppelmanRamit SethiDax ShepardTony RobbinsJim DethmerDan HarrisRay DalioNaval RavikantVitalik ButerinElizabeth LesserAmanda PalmerKatie HaunSir Richard BransonChuck PalahniukArianna HuffingtonReid HoffmanBill BurrWhitney CummingsRick RubinDr. Vivek MurthyDarren AronofskyMargaret AtwoodMark ZuckerbergPeter ThielDr. Gabor MatéAnne LamottSarah SilvermanDr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.

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